Don’t neglect the room that should be all about you
By Candice G. Ball
Although it’s the room where you probably spend seven to nine hours each day, when it comes to design and beauty, it’s often the most neglected room. If you’re like most people, it’s time you revisited your bedroom design and décor and create the space you need to rest, rejuvenate and enjoy intimacy.
“People don’t give their bedroom enough priority,” says Kim Schroeder, owner of Charisma, the design experience. “People often put more energy into the kitchen, the living room and bathrooms and neglect the master bedroom. Because it’s your own personal space for rejuvenation, connection and intimacy, it merits way more priority.”
As with Schroeder, Sherri Cowlthorp, owner of Inclusive Design Group, sees the same pattern, particularly when a couple builds a new house. The more public rooms come first and often by the time the house owners turn their attention to the bedroom, they’ve spent most of their budget on the other rooms in the house.
We owe it to ourselves to create a sanctuary to retreat from the daily grind. How do you go about creating that space? If you face budget constraints, there are a couple of inexpensive options that can make an immediate difference.
“Go out and find yourself a great bed in a bag,” says Cowlthorp. “Make sure it has colours you really love.” Candles or some lighting with a dimmer is also an inexpensive way to make your bedroom a more intimate space.
If you have the budget to do a total makeover, it could run the gamut from everything to new furniture to lighting to custom bedding and area rugs. “For the master bedroom, you should absolutely use your favourite colours and textures,” says Schroeder.
Cowlthorp agrees that choosing the right textures go a long way to create an intimate space. “Particular attention to texture should be made. When creating a bedroom for romance, relaxation and rest, pay attention to texture in drapery, rugs, throws and bedding. Items with a lot of texture give the effect of warmth and relaxation.”
Another approach to designing the master bedroom is to select colours and textures that contrast with the rest of your house. For instance, Schroeder visited a home in Mexico that had bright, vibrant colours throughout the house and the bedroom decorated in white and cream. “It was a nice contrast to all the energetic colours throughout the rest of the house and the room was very soothing and peaceful.”
If you’re looking to set the mood for more intimacy and lovemaking with your partner, there are certain colours that seem to encourage both. A study conducted by the Travelodge in Britain that surveyed 2,000 guests found that couples with caramel-coloured walls have sex about three times a week—that’s more than the Canadian average of once or twice a week.
If you really want to turn up the heat, the colour purple appears to be the sexiest bedroom colour. A survey conducted by British retailer Littlewoods found that couples with purple bedding or furniture had more than three intimate encounters a week. Downside? The Travelodge study reported that people in purple bedrooms get less than six hours of sleep a night. In addition to stirring up amorous desires, the theory is that purple stimulates creative thought, which can get in the way of a good night’s sleep.
If you’re looking to get more sleep, you may want to consider a blue bedroom. The Travelodge study reported that those sleeping in blue rooms got almost eight hours of sleep and woke up feeling good. It’s hardly surprising. Think of how you feel when you gaze out a blue sea or look up at a bright sky.
The right lighting also plays an integral role in setting the mood in the bedroom. Both Schroeder and Cowlthorp recommend lighting with dimmers and candlelight (real or artificial).
Adding a chaise lounge can also help promote relaxation and intimacy. “If you have room for a sitting area, don’t have two chairs; have a chair and a half or a chaise lounge so there’s enough room for the two of you,” says Schroeder.
Both Schroeder and Cowlthorp are adamant about keeping TV, technology and distractions out of the bedroom. Don’t charge your phone overnight in your bedroom. Don’t bring your laptop or tablet into your bedroom. Have one book on your nightstand table, not six.
Another tip is to make your bed every morning. “If I don’t make my bed in the morning, I really dislike coming home from a stressful day at work to a disheveled mess,” says Schroeder. “I’d rather see it done up all nice and pretty, welcoming me home to my personal retreat at the end of the day.”